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Who would have imagined….I’m so sad.  3 hours later…  guess I’ll test a few sentences before doing that again.

*** Major editing to do on this one.  Any volunteers?  Ha.  Just kidding.  This is 2 articles in one… WIP. ***

It is an easy F word to say but usually only uttered on Friday after 12pm, Saturday and Sunday; used occasionally in the evening hours as well.  My dare… something I’ve been daring myself to do too:  apply the word FUN to Monday- Friday, 8am to 5pm.  How many of us can say those hours are fun?  Or that fun is even on the list of expectations for the work week?  I don’t like that phrase, “work week”.  Clearly fun is not the goal of that phrase. 

I vote we ban phrases like “the daily grind” and ‘work week” all together.  Let’s replace them with “fun week” and “the daily fun factor!”  I have a sneaking suspicion we’d all be totally shocked at what a small change like that will get us.  I can relate on this topic…  here’s the introduction of my journey to “fun week”.  Reporting from the trenches, this is Heather Dossey, Freelance Makeup Artist and Intuitive Life Coach.  WAIT…  I can rephrase that.  Reporting from the land of opportunity where anything is possible and the universe goes crazy with excitement to support anyone purposely seeking work that is fun, this is Heather Dossey, Freelance Makeup Artist and Intuitive Life Coach. 

It’s not our fault, you know.   Look back over history, and you hear many stories about survival.  For generations the “American Dream” has been built on hard work and toil (so we’re taught.)  If we want to have it all we have to work hard for it.  We can certainly do it that way, but what if there’s a better way to go about it; an easier way that increases your joy?   Nowhere in my southern, public school-system upbringing was there any mention of finding employment that you enjoyed.  It was about the most opportunity, the best paycheck, the best benefits, and the longest ladder to climb.  Or maybe I just didn’t hear the part about it also being something you enjoy.  Maybe I just missed that part?  What about you?  Did you catch that part?

At 35, I had come to the point where my spirit was threatening to evacuate my life all together if I didn’t find a way to have MORE FUN from 8 to 5. I’ve spent the last 10 years searching for meaning, spiritual truth, self awareness, and self worth.  I got comfortable with my feelings, so much so I went back to school to get my license in counseling.  I obtained a certification in life coaching.  All while working full time for the same company for the past 13 years.  My company has been hugely supportive of me and I consider the entire company my family.  Sounds cheesy, but I whole heartedly feel that way.  It was an assigned mentor, Spencer Fraiser, who asked me the question one day, “Heather, do you have fun at your job?”  There’s no crying in baseball, and there’s no crying in Corporate America either…  except for behind closed doors with people you trust.  I trusted and connected with my mentor and the answer to his question did not come out in words.  It came out in tears. 

10 years worth of work (fun!) on self awareness, finding my heart, and who I really am…  and there was still one ingredient missing: FUN!!!!  I don’t know about you, but I’m a worst case-scenario kind of girl when it comes to preparting myself for change.  If I’m prepared for the worst case, then anything along the spectrum I can handle.  I try to spend as little time in worst case mode as possible, but a few months ago, worst case was being fired due to a sheer lack of giving a shit.  (Masked by my mediocre level effort as opposed to my normal over-achieving self and I was still getting compliments on the work I was doing.)  My work might not have been sub-par but I felt sub-par doing it.  My heart just wasn’t in it anymore. 

During my worst case scenario planning, I imagined myself having to get a job after being fired.  In that imaginary moment of desperation, I didn’t care what I was doing as long as it was fun.  I thought about waiting tables- not fun.  I thought about babysitting- not fun.  I thought about working for another company that would appreciate my masters degree in logistics- not fun.  Makeup.  I could sell makeup at the M.A.C. counter; one of my favorite places to be.  I did makeup for several friends on their wedding day.  I’m always trying to put lipgloss on my girlfriends.  Makeup is something I have loved my whole life… why not??  That brain storm has lead to a very fast and very fun display of the universe at work!  Thanks to my life coach, Tambra Harck, supporting me in my transition to “fun week” I have a photo shoot in 2 weeks with 5 models and headshots of myself to start a portfolio and website as a freelance makeup artist available for hire on the weekends.  Scratch that- available for hire, period.  Who knows where this will take me.  All I can say at this point is that I’m having the most fun dreaming about it and buying things like my beautiful new mink powder brush.  I’m so in love with it I want to sleep with it every night. 

I could tell early on there was really something to this new endeavor because things were happening quickly and easily.  I’ve been asking myself how this fits in with the intuitive life coaching I’ve known for years would be my soul’s great work?  My path has been one of claiming and nourishing my inner beauty and outer beauty.  There is some combination of my two passions that will serve others in the future.  At this point, that’s the best I can explain it.  The events of this past weekend are proof that I’m headed in the right direction. 

I spent some time researching websites of makeup artists in my area.  One in particular stood out to me, her name is Tiffanie Park.  I looked thru her portfolio pictures and accomplishments with excitement and thought how wonderful to be her!  A week later at a makeup event at my local M.A.C. counter, there she was, working on me.  I complimented her site and shared my story.  I’m supposed to contact her about helping on some jobs she has booked this summerTo work with someone that talented from the begining?  I certainly didn’t come up with that…  I just appreciated her work and saw her as a role model and followed the daily fun factor to a makeup event.  Tiffany being there, that is the Universe having fun right along with me.   

What’s going to happen in the future?  Big shoulder shrug; stay tuned.   Why would I write about all this now?  Because I CAN NOT WAIT to write update articles on how following the daily fun factor can turn out for all of us.  The best thing I can do as a life coach: document right now what this feels like because it is exactly what I’ll be walking others thru in the future.  Won’t it be so FUN when I post on facebook, “Loving my town of New Orleans and loving my job!  Brad Pitt is in my chair right now.  I would send a picture but we’re having too much fun primping and talking about having kids.  Plus I’m a professional makeup artist.  (but if we snap a quick self-portrait I’ll sneak it to ya.)”  Oh, and why New Orleans?  Because it’s fun.  I’ve been collecting Jazzfest posters for 12 years because they’re fun.  I finally made it to New Orleans for the first time 6 months ago and everything in me says that’s my town.   

For those of you who are dear friends that might be concerned for me, thank you and I love you for it.  I do still have employment but I’m planning to retire soon.  What I need are cheerleaders.   Get out those toe-touches I KNOW you still have in you and cheer me on, that’s what I need most right now.  Mom has the “fear for me” part all wrapped up.  Why, I still don’t understand because she is living proof of what following the daily fun factor is all about!  After 32 years of marriage, her husband left.  Her kids were grown, so she packed up and followed her heart to the beaches of Destin, Florida.  We got a call a few weeks later that she had invested her entire settlement in building lots; she was becoming a realtor and was going to build houses at the beach!  My brothers and I thought she had totally lost it and discussed increasing our 401K’s so we could support her during bankruptcy.  My mom has always loved houses; everything about them.  My grandmother was an interior decorator.  “Decorating is in our DNA”, I was told growing up.  It is their art and despite the era, my grandmother wasn’t afraid to follow her passion.  My mother has been hugely successful financially but more importantly, following her fun factor brought joy she never imagined.  9 months after moving to Florida, in a fixtures shop picking out lighting fixtures for her first house, she met Stephan.  9 years later, he still adores her and treats her like a goddess should be treated.  No matter how many houses she shows, how many contracts she writes, or how many house plans she goes thru…  even if it is with an eye roll, there’s no question she is having fun.  It’s my mom.  It’s ok for her to be concerned.  So in all fairness she gets the first picture of Brad Pitt in my chair.   

Love, Light, and Lipgloss my friends!

HD

P.S.  I went to have a ring sized after the M.A.C. event I mentioned earlier- it was a Christmas present to me from Stephan.  At the jewelry store I was introduced to another freelance makeup artist that does makeup along with jewelry sales.  After spending much time talking about our love of makeup she gave me her card.  She booked a wedding event this coming weekend but is unable to do it now.  She offered it to me.  A bride and 4 bridesmaids need a makeup artist and she wanted to know if I was available.  I don’t have a business card yet.  I don’t have my portfolio yet.  I don’t have my website yet.  Looks like the universe follows the fun factor rule also, don’t you think?  Unfortunately I’m not available this weekend.  I’ve already made plans with the new man in my life.  A 6’6″ beautiful man from Belgium who lives in (get this)…New Orleans.  And he thinks I’m a goddess.  Now how’s that for following the fun?  The offer for my first fun day as a makeup artist for hire: that was a nod from above that not only can I do this, but it can be easy too.  It doesn’t have to be hard when “fun week” is the focus.

Love, Light, and Lipgloss

Love and Light!  This salutation has become as common as Sincerely Yours in this day and age.   Used primarily by spiritual enthusiasts, to bestow best wishes.  And what can be as important as love or light to wish upon someone?  Love being the emotion that connects all life and light representing the energy that creates life; God’s light, source energy, God’s love.   Well… as farfetched as it may seem, my best wishes to bestow on those I care for and want to connect with:  Love, Light, and Lipgloss.

There is a magic to being balanced- internal and external beauty.  Elizabeth Gilbert searches for her balance in Eat, Pray, Love.  (A great salutation if she doesn’t use it already.)  Her external focus was on relationships- men- not so much her looks but anything outside of us would be considered an external focus.  So why is there judgment for self improvements thru makeup, lifting weights, supplements, facial procedures like Botox and skin resurfacing, all the way to plastic surgery?   

There is a flavor of vanity applied to all of those words.  It’s like a warning – rightfully so- against becoming too externally focused.  But none of us know what balance looks like for someone else.  What if we shifted our perception to see these as tools to accentuate our physical beauty because it is just as important, not more but not less, than our internal beauty?  Judgment for the expensive car someone drives, the 3 story house, the private schools… all someone’s attempt to feel good and beautify their external environment.    

We came here in physical form to appreciate and engross ourselves in all things of beauty in the physical realm.  Brad Pitt’s famous line from the movie Troy is a great summary of this: “The Gods envy us. They envy us because we’re mortal, because any moment might be our last. Everything is more beautiful because we’re doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now. We will never be here again.”  Dramatic!  But it is with that level of passion we can choose to see the beauty in everything around us, including ourselves.  If our beauty quotient isn’t high enough, we can certainly change it!  We all want to feel congruent.  Throughout time every culture and every religion has celebrated physical beauty and internal beauty.  Finding the right balance has always been the key.

What is the moral of this story?  It is really all about what is important to you!  And allowing our fellow human friends who came down here to kick around with us on earth the same freedom.  What’s your salutation?  What is your well wish for people?  Do you wish them much love?  Do you wish them hugs and kisses with x’s and o’s?  Are you sincerely theirs when they need a friend?  My well wish for you:  Love, Light, and Lipgloss.  Love, being a heart wide open to give and receive.  Light, being connection to God so your day is guided for your highest good and happiness.  And lipgloss…so you appreciate the beauty of every part of your life and adorn your worthy, divine self with anything that makes you feel beautiful.  

Love, Light, and Spanks?  They do make me feel thinner and more beautiful in my clothes. But nahhhh… my jiggly parts are my goddess parts.  Now lipgloss… it makes me feel beautiful every time.  Dirty hair, yoga pants, UGGs, and no makeup, with one application of lipgloss and I’m shining!  Whatever your version of lipgloss is, don’t judge it or anyone else’s.   Golf clubs, brazilian hardwood floors, BMW’s, rubies, autographed footballs, Polo, limos, a trip around the world, deer heads on the wall, a rosebush, pedicures, hair implants, breast implants, eyeliner, weight loss surgery, Marc Jacobs, John Deere, Paula Dean, and on and on.  Whatever beautifies your world, make time for it and celebrate it.  Not out of vanity or extravagance but a signal of your devotion to your best self and appreciating your beautiful life inside and out.

Love, Light, and Lipgloss my friends!  HD

Oh Brother Where Art Thou

Christmas at the beach is a nice way to spend a holiday.  My mom’s side of the family all traveled to Destin, FL for Christmas this year and we had a wonderful time.  Several things came up this week that would make for a great article, but at the top of the list was an encounter with my brother Ryan. 

Ryan and I were catching up the day he arrived; exchanging stories, talking about the holiday itinerary, the menu, and the grocery list (for that grocery trip…one of many!)  Somewhere in the conversation I mentioned my trip to Napa and “Healing Elvis”.  A few hours later he came into my room for something and said, “What is this book of yours about again?  I know you’ve mentioned it before but what is it again?”  I replied, “It is about emotions- about being comfortable with them because we are human and they are meant to be a gift.”  He looked at me…smiled… mumbled something humorous… and had left my room within 10 seconds.  That is no exaggeration.  The mere mention of the word and he wasn’t sticking around for further details.  Emotions… and… I’m out. 

As a collective, it feels like our comfort level has increased a great deal regarding emotions in the last few decades but we still have much room for improvement.  I sense the gap between where we are and where we could be thanks to my own experience of  “lost but now I’m found” regarding my own emotions- both understanding and expressing them. 

Where did we lose on our way on this topic?  What human being first labeled emotions as bad and attempted to avoid them?  Was it Adam and that stupid Apple?  Where ever we got off course in our quest for civility, it is now time to stop all the madness and remember what our hearts and souls know to be true:  emotions are meant to guide us like a compass toward the best version of who we came here to be.  Being uncomfortable with them is like being uncomfortable with the fact that you have fingers.  “These stick looking things at the end of my arm; I hear they’re called fingers.  They’re awkward and they’re bendable and these hard white things grow out of them and I don’t like it!  I’m supposed to use them to make life easier on myself but it’s just too weird!  I’m going to just ignore them.  Maybe I’ll just wear gloves and keep them covered up.  Yuck…  I hate fingers.  Don’t even talk about fingers around me. ” 

 Pretty ridiculous, right?   Absurd.  Where would we be without fingers?  Can you live?  Yes.  Easily?  Of course not.  Anyone who’s ever broken an arm or finger can tell you how much more difficult life becomes.  Emotions could be viewed the same way.  They are a tool, meant to simplify our lives by notifying us when we are on course.  Those are the good feeling emotions that we are always in pursuit of!  Unfortunately, emotions are not ala-carte… you can’t choose to just have the good feeling ones and do away with the emotions that don’t feel good.  Because they also notify us when we’re NOT on course, they can feel confusing and out of control and that’s why so many flip the switch on emotions…they don’t even want to talk about it. 

My brother is an amazing person.  Beautiful inside and out, very creative, artistics and scientific, a firey Aries always on the go.  He is the VP of Brand Management and Apparel for his company.  In my book, he’ is the VP of Awesomeness and Attractiveness.  He can do, and be, and have ANYTHING he wants.  (we all can…)  But how is he going to know what that is without his navigation system turned on?  How will he really know his passion and therefore his life mission or souls great work?  My brother is a prime example of someone who could bliss-out on his life if he would use all the tools God gave him, including his emotional guidance system- fully activated from his heart. 

Writing an article about a family member… not such a hot idea, maybe?  As you can see, I’m crazy about him so most of its bragging.  I do have the heartfelt wish that he will embrace his emotional nature.  It would take the magic of his life to new places and allow him to connect on a deeper level with his true self and with other people in his life.  If you read this someday Ryan, I love you and I wish you a lifetime of success, love, and true happiness…you’re version of it, not mine.  And thanks for being such a great brother, friend, and inspiration.  You can’t coach your friends and family… but you can be a friend and listen.  My ears are yours anytime.  And hey- lets focus on the positive here.  When Oprah calls, your coming with me!

 All my love,  HD

Healing Elvis

Napa Valley has been on my to-do list for some time now… a calling of sorts.  I’ve just returned from my first trip to the wine country and it is a magical place.  Grapevines, gigantic Christmas trees, vibrant fall colored leaves in red, orange, and yellow hues, mixed with palm trees blanketed by misty fog.  An impossible combination, more like a daydream, but it does in fact exist.  The call to Napa was about much more than the landscape, energy, and grapes.  I was to be part of a beautiful group of women led by author and spiritual teacher, Tambra Harck, called Emergent Woman. 

After a long and powerfully transformative day, our goddess posse was enjoying a large spread of cheese, fruit, and wine prior to dinner.  We were laughing, enjoying the “yumminess”, and listening to Christmas music playing in the dining room of our quaint country inn, La Residence.  An Elvis song came on and we started to share our stories about The King. 

As we shared Elvis stories, I realized my perspective on Elvis is much different from when I idolized him as a teenager. I still have a huge appreciation for him as an artist but as an intuitive life coach I see his humanness and feel his pain.  He was not equipped to handle the emotional swings of his life.  Yes, he was a celebrity and there are additional pressures that come with that I’m certain but it is all relative to the individual.  The emotional extremes Elvis must have felt would be similar to the emotional extremes felt by a 13 year old girl with braces; embarrassed by her mere existence and completely confused by emotions.   There is much pain and suffering when emotions are not understood and feel out of control.

I made the comment to my lovely lady friends, “I wish Elvis could come back.  I would love to help him.”  A DeLorean time-machine Back to the Future style might be more appropriate… either way…this is what I would say: “Elvis, sugar, there are no uppers or downers that will make what you are experiencing go away.  I know what it is like to be on an emotional rollercoaster… and I know the medicine of a midnight peanut butter and banana sandwich.  I assure you Elvis no amount of women, alcohol, hit records, new silver screen roles, or even your mama’s fried chicken will resolve the internal conflict and turmoil and confusion you are feeling.   You have to get in alignment with the REAL you.   Your happiness will come from within once you find your heart and educate yourself enough to really live in it. 

It is a process and the best way to go about it is to accept help.  The minute you seek teachers, tools, mentors, and workshops to assist you, they will show up in large numbers and be exactly what you need!  The universe will rush in to support  if you are brave enough to ask for help and be open to it coming in new forms.  C’mon Elvis… even Christ needed 12 helpers to get his work done on this planet.  Who are any of us to try and go it alone?  Let’s get you headed back in the right direction so you can FEEL the joy of your music again!  You are numb right now but I promise that can change.  When do you want to set up your first appointment? “

Picture this… an 80 year old Elvis still belting it out all over the world with his own line of juicers, cookware, cookbooks, and herbal cleanses at Target trying to help everyone stay young.  Can’t you just see him doing those signature hips proving his vitality!  Elvis still living his passion, surrounded by people that love him including his grand children.  How awesome would it be for Elvis to rewrite his legacy as one of passion and wholeness?  Each one of us has a legacy to leave.  If you don’t think your legacy is all that noteworthy at this point… you still have the opportunity to rewrite it!

And who knows, Elvis could already be back at it, putting all of his lessons to good use.  What if Elvis came back as Justin Bieber?  Justin, honey, if you are reading this… let’s get you equipped early on.  It is not hard and I’m certain with the right emotional and spiritual tools, you’ll have a long and happy road ahead of you.  Call me and we can set up your first appointment.  Ha!

What an amazing trip and further confirmation of my service in this lifetime.  I am so grateful to connect with this group of gorgeous, strong, passionate, and caring women living their highest mission of joyful service in the world.  Each one is an inspiration and a bright light for all to bask in her glow.  And did I mention a barrel of fun?!  With giggles and laughter all around the table; cheese in one hand and fruit in the other, our inn keeper pouring more wine asks, “Are you ladies having fun?”  Tambra replies, “We’re healing Elivis, that’s how fun we are!”

All my love, HD

The F word.  What is going thru your thoughts right now?  I’m pretty sure the one you’re thinking of has 4 letters.  It’s a perfectly fine word, fun at times even.  I saw a quote in a magazine that I love, and would give credit to the actress that said it if I remembered who it was… “A true lady should use the F bomb sparingly but with great affect.”  Very true, but the word I’m referring to is used even more sparingly I’m afraid… FEELINGS.

Who am I?  What do I really want?  What do I really care about?  What am I passionate about?   What do I want to do with my life?  Why am I alive?  What is love?  Who do I really love?  And the list goes on and on….  Ever asked any of these?  You’re human.  The answer is yes.  Do you have the whole-hearted honest answer to any of them?  If you’re lucky, you can say yes to at least a few.  But I’m certain at some point in everyone’s life the answer to any and all of these life-sized questions feels overwhelming and without response.  I can say that because I have experienced a time in my life where I was so numb, I had no idea who I really was much less what I cared about.  The numbness was a result of life circumstances around me that were out of my control and a complete lack of emotional intelligence to navigate the emotional rollercoaster that ensued.  Emotional intelligence…  that word gets thrown around a lot these days, very PC.  Just so there is no confusion, what I mean by emotional intelligence is a deep understanding of human emotions and what they are meant to communicate to human beings. 

If anyone asked, “Heather, break it down for me.  I’m not sure I can answer any of those questions.  How do I do it?  What’s the process ?”  My answer would be this:

“To honestly know who you are, why you came into this lifetime, and what your purpose is, you have to be connected to source energy or God’s energy,  and the REAL you.  You’re connection point is your heart.  And  emotions are the language your heart uses to communicate if you are on the right path or headed in the right direction at every moment of every day.   It’s a guidance system and gauge more sophisticated than any GPS system known to man.  Emotions were created by God, and they come standard with every human vehicle.”

I am passionate about emotions and every human being understanding them because they are a gift.  And emotional intelligence is a perfect phrase because intelligence denotes learning and that is exactly what each one of us has to do… learn what emotions really are and what each one is trying to communicate.  There is no such thing as a bad emotion.  Really!?!  Yes… it was shocking for me to at first… but really.  “Anger is a good thing Heather.” The first time I heard a counselor utter this phrase I went ballistic in that emotion!  Not because of the situation at hand but because it took till I was 26 years old and had thoughts of suicide before I came across that knowledge!  Now, to put it in context, I had felt numb for over a year and was “defrosting” my heart at the time.  The thawing process is a bit like coming in from the snow with numb feet, it’s tingly and painful but strangly feels good because your feet are waking back up!  Anger is an improvement, a forward movement up the emotional scale from numbness, therefore it was a good sign.  That’s what my counselor was trying to teach me. 

That lesson hit me harder (in a good way) than almost anything I’ve learned in this life so far.  I am now a passionate person, with a heart fully engaged in my life , with emotional intelligence that would earn me an A+ in AP Emotions, who can answer EVERY question I listed off previously.  And the best part…  every person on this planet could say exactly that with a little effort!  And it’s not hard either.  I got there by making the conscious decision that I wanted to live and that no matter what the emotion was, I wanted to FEEL it.  I didn’t know how to verbalize then, but looking back it all makes perfect sense; living numb is not living but living with a heart wide open exposes you to all of the emotions we have created words for.  If you want to feel the good ones… you have to open yourself up to and understand the ones that don’t feel good too.  The choice to feel, no matter what, is the decision to live and be guided in the right direction by your emotions.  To me, understanding the emotional scale and how to move yourself up it is a foundational cornerstone of being happy.  No matter how hard you search for happiness, you won’t know it when you find it unless you can FEEL it.  And when your happy… your heart smiles.  That sensation is unmistakable, so sought after, and well deserved by us all.  Emotions are the soapbox I could stand on all day, everyday at this point in my journey.  I have it on good authority (mine!) the title of this blog will also be the title of my first book. 

My challenge to you today my friend:  notice how your feeling more today than usual, put energy into deciphering what your feeling today.  Do your best to come up with what F word best describes it and then say out loud, “I feel ______.” Get comfortable stating where you are on the emotional scale.  Then find at least 1 thing you love to do for you, even if it’s as simple as spend an extra 6o seconds in the shower with a sugar scrub, or cream in your coffee, a pedicure, a trip to the driving range, a game of catch with your son….whatever makes you feel good.  And then take note of where you are on the emotional scale.  Make a list of at least 10 things you know you can reach for, quickly, that will walk you up the emotional scale to a better feeling place and have that list handy for the next time you find yourself in an emotion that doesn’t feel good to you!  You have the power to change it.

 Thanks for taking the time to read my post!  Look for more information to come on emotions my friends… it’s my favorite topic!

All my love, HD

Moving Into Your Souls Great Work

A teacher of mine said something this past April that keeps replaying in my thoughts; “moving into your souls great work is one of the most difficult things we can do in a lifetime.”  I’ve known for years now, 9 to be exact, what my soul came here to do.  How to go about it… that’s the part I’m still unsure of.  This blog is an action step, one I hope- scratch that- know will snowball into something meaningful and fulfilling.  It feels a bit like I’ve been waiting in line for the Superloop at the Benton County Fair and it’s now my turn.  I’m excited but also have a knot in my stomach.  2 parts excitement, 1 part fear, 1 part trust, and 1 part self-doubt = a Superloop tummy ache.  And after 9 years of exploring, learning, and expanding on who I am and what I want out of this life experience, everything in me says it’s time.  Time to write. 

Life is a journey, not the destination…true that.  And I’ve been at the fairgrounds all day.  I’ve been to the parade-  heck I was in the parade.  I’ve been on the Spider and the Gravatron rides.  I’ve pet many sweet animals (horrible pun but true) and I treated myself to a funnel cake.  Lots of enjoyment!  But your souls great work…your purpose…what propelled the journey or the theme of this journey might be a better way to put it- that’s the big ride.  We’re all craving a purpose, something meaningful and I know what it feels like to have no clue what the theme of my life really was- to feel lost without directions.  It’s numbing.  How to find your theme or purpose?  That will be a major topic in my future work- looking back that part wasn’t difficult once I allowed myself to be helped in many ways.  I know who I am, and what I’m passionate about.  How can I not climb the steps and strap myself in for the ride of my life, the ride I came here for?  This is my Superloop and part of my souls great work is to inspire others to get in line; to hand their ticket over and let’s ride. 

Artist.  Writer.  Teacher.  Healer.  Intuitive.  Coach.  Mentor.  Leader. 

All very powerful descriptors that I never would have used to describe myself 9 years ago.  Today, even if they feel like a stretch at times, this is who I am.  Every experience has led me to this place.  I will be a student everyday, I’m built for continuous improvement, that won’t change.  What’s tomorrow for anyway?  My answer:  to improve on today.  It doesn’t have to be a daunting, massive improvement.  It can be something simple like improve on my appreciation for being here.  To improve on how many times I look people in the eye and smile, or improve on my commitment (my best attempt to commit…student!) to exercise, meditation, and nutrition.  There is always room to improve!  I take comfort in knowing that because the underlying emotion in continuous improvement is hope.  The concept can be exhausting because it’s never ending- there is no finish line.  How do we set goals and accomplish them like we’ve been so diligently taught to do?  But this is life we’re talking about- there is no finish line…. only milestones!   (And if you see death as your finish line…  hang with me…we’ll get to that!)

One lesson I have learned and love to see prove itself true over and over again:  Be CLEAR about what I want and allow it to happen.  Don’t focus so much on the details- relax on the how, where, when, and who.  What do I want from this?  State it with as much clarity as I can put into words:

  • I want to be honest and real even if it makes me feel vulnerable. 
  • I want to be all of those bold words my heart came here to be. 
  • I want to stay connected to God, to source , so I can FEEL my way thru this. 
  • I want to be brave and move forward even when I’m scared. 
  • I want to speak my truth without seeking approval or agreement.
  • I want to support myself financially thru my souls great work. 
  • I want to be shocked at the amount of help and resources available to accept it all with gratitude. 
  • I want all of my encounters with new people to be loving. 
  • I want to appreciate the mystery of my life unfolding and trust the timing is always perfect. 
  • I want to love and be patient with myself every step of the way. 
  • I want it to feel easy.
  • And last but not least ( I want this to be at the top of my list not the bottom but it shows where I have room for improvement… ) I want to have fun and smile more than ever before.    

My goal is to post once a week on Sunday.  Whatever I feel compelled to write about with no judgement for grammer and spelling errors and will instead look forward to someday having an editor…

All my love, HD